Saturday, September 9, 2017

Five stages of Loss

First written down by Elisabeth K├╝bler-Ross in her 1969 book "On Death and Dying" these five stages were solely focused on the processing of grief after a death. 
Speaking as someone who has gone through losing a loved one, I have passed through every single one of these stages. I know what they all feel like. 

Over the course of years though I've come to realize that it's not just after the death of a loved one that we humans process loss. I've also seen (and personally experienced) these feelings in other types of loss. For example a loss can also occur with a personal terminal illness, the end of a slowly disintegrating friendship, an ended relationship, estrangement in family, loss of money, the death of a pet or animal, and some might even argue waking up on a work day! 

Tuesday, July 11, 2017

Broccoli Soup

A skinnier Panera copycat recipe.

I don't know if you've ever tried it, but I love Panera's Broccoli Cheddar soup. Introduced to me by my sister in law, it's become one of my favorite comfort foods to indulge on when I don't feel like making lunch myself. Or when I am out shopping somewhere and I'm starved for something and there just so happens to be a Panera near by.

Sunday, June 11, 2017

Mourning death vs. Celebrating life

People all over the world process loss differently. Every culture all over the world has a different way to approach death and its aftermath. 

In some cultures there is a designated mourning time. Like in Hinduist, Islamic, Catholic and Jewish traditions. Elsewhere in the world people have traditions that center around celebrating life. Consider a fairly new development in South Africa: an 'after tears party' which is held after the funeral, when friends and family get together to drink, joke, focus on comforting each other and remembering the deceased with fondness. A similar tradition is found in Irish culture. 

I do not think that the way mourning happens in the Netherlands, where I am from, is necessarily based on a religion or specific tradition. It is just something that is rooted in the attitude of the Dutch and in my family also based on mere practicality. But recently someone I care about made me question the way loss is approached. 

Friday, June 2, 2017

Adopt, don't shop

Today on Lightstyle I would like to talk about something that's very dear to my heart. ARF animal shelter in Walnut Creek is offering free adoptions through June 11th. We adopted our fluffy love at Tony La Russa's Animal Rescue Foundation over a year ago and couldn't be happier with the service and the entire adoption process they offer. 

Let me tell you why you should go take a look for yourself, by telling you a little story. 

Saturday, April 15, 2017

Communication 101

Improve your communication

and conflict resolving abilities

First of all, let's look at what communication is exactly. The most basic way to describe communication is the conveyance of a message from a sender to a receiver.
Staticly it looks like this:

As communication is a very complicated process, there are many other factors that influence how and if a message is received and also if it's received correctly.